I’ve got my groove back. I fell behind on many wedding to-dos during the holidays, and the turn of the new year made marrying Anthony seem so near. So how did I re-group after failing to meet the deadlines for the check marks I strongly desired?
First, I found a checklist that worked for me. I have looked at many lists that are supposed to remind you of what you should not forget, or the details that might never cross you mind. I bought a planner. One of my bridesmaids gave me a planner. I found checklists on sites like Real Simple and The Knot. I compared. I scribbled. I crumpled. I tossed. They all seemed to leave out different key elements. Until….THIS! Have you made contact sheets for your wedding? Thought about your floor plan? Created a timeline? Compared bridesmaids gowns? Tracked deposits and payments? Russell and Hazel thought of everything.
Second, I set a date for a project night. It is important to me to involve my friends and family in my wedding, so I planned a night to get together with a group of ladies: the moms and the bridesmaids, to help with projects such as embossing envelopes and making signs and centerpieces. Make sure you try the projects out before having everyone get together and realizing that it would work so much better if you had “X”. I am grateful that I have friends and family (and soon-to-be family) that are enriching my engagement and investing in our wedding.
Lastly, I had a “share the vision” session with my mom. Sitting down and showing her my thoughts, plans and wishes put me at ease. After a few hours, I felt like all was right in the wedding world again. It might be your wedding coordinator, your mother, or a friend, but if you are planning a wedding, I highly encourage you to find someone you can hash out all the gritty details with. Find someone else who is there for your musing and rambling. Find someone who delights in the joyous “small things.” Brainstorm. With someone.